The Floral Hustle

  📍 Hello, flower friends. This is Jen, and you are listening to the Floral Hustle podcast. I'm going to do an episode, this mini episode on something a little vulnerable because I, I want it to be a teaching moment for you to be your most authentic self in business, in life, in like everything you do, because I feel.

A lot of business owners, it's like they wear a mask. They aren't themselves, they are pretending to be who they think they need to be to, to run a business, to do all these things. Uh, and that's just not the case. And so I had an incident and I sh I actually made a video because I, I reacted to it. Uh, but I had someone leave a review on the podcast and they said that they loved my content, but I said the word literally too much, that it made them cringe and they had to move on.

And so how this was a literal moment of clarity for me is that for one, I have just repelled someone that needed repelling. I am a human being. As you are two who has mannerisms, has words, has phrases, uh, and that beautifully is imperfect. And so someone pointing out in honestly a really gross fashion became this moment of clarity to me that it is okay for not everyone.

To like me for not everyone to have to approve of me, which in a world where one of our biggest fears is fear of judgment and fear of rejection, that I could step back and say like, this person is blatantly rejecting me publicly and I don't care. Right. Obviously, like I want my rating to be high and I don't want someone's stupidity to be impacting someone's willingness to listen to my podcast because it's one three star review.

At least they didn't gimme a one star, she gave me a three star. So say thank you, Bray, whatever, who did that review for a three star and thank you for saying my content was valuable, but I. I had to like go inward and think like, because those are comments that often hurt. Um, when people say very judgmental, voi, very pointed things.

And we don't only do this in business, we do this in life with our friends, with, um, our loved ones. Our partner is that we let. These specific little nuances of our behavior or someone, uh, really being critical of our behavior. So I literally said, I literally don't care. And so when you have this moment, maybe it's somebody even writing.

Um, I had another person on social media. I did a video of how you could reuse foam cages. I honestly did not know for years that people reused these. And when the foam pandemic happened, I started begging my decorator friend to save all of the foam cages. Cause I said, we will not have them unless we start saving them.

And I fundamentally realize, On principle that there are so much that I need to improve on from an eco standpoint, and I have been experimenting with a lot of those practices and been reusing and using fiber fluoro and using agra wool and trying to, to switch some of the things to foam free whenever I can.

But somebody also attacked me on, um, one of my posts that I was putting out in the world. For educational purposes for free. So these are all, like, all of these things are free content that I was delivering. And I think that this could happen, and I think this is where fear sticks in or sinks into you, your, your mind and your heart is when you're going to post on social media and do a video and hit record.

You're fearing that judgment, you're fearing, um, that rejection from that person. Obviously you could fear the negative feedback like I had received, but what really matters is your reaction to that feedback. So when I say literally don't care, you need to go into doing anything in your business. That you are doing this for you, you are doing it because it makes you happy.

Your happiness and your satisfaction of being his business owner is not tied to someone's negative feedback so much that you can disconnect if you see it that it is, is not going to derail you. You're just like, It could sting a little, but I am so disconnected from that feedback because I know that I am doing a good job.

I know that I am trying hard. I know my heart is in a place of love, a place of, from a, a standpoint of helping people and. I'm not approaching anything from a standpoint of hurting someone as these people who have left comments on social media and obviously left this review. So because my heart is in such a good place, I take that negativity and I let it bounce off me.

Like a bouncy ball. I'm not letting it suck to my skin. I'm not letting it go into my heart. I'm literally, um, what is it? I'm water. Your glue, whatever you say, bounces off of me. I don't know. Whatever that comment was and sticks to you, I'm letting it just rebound off of my heart and my head and going, this doesn't matter.

I literally don't care. Okay, because I know that I'm doing a good job. I know that the masses of responses to this podcast, to my coaching, uh, I had an event, uh, that was for the MMN Floral Collective that I founded here in Minnesota. And I had someone say that that. Jenny has a relentless pursuit of community over competition that is like no other.

And a comment like that makes me truly feel that I am being understood and I am making a difference to what my purpose is, and my purpose is to help educate. And is only coming from a place of love and expansion. And so I don't dwell on that. And what I'm hoping you guys take from this, cuz you're probably like, why are you just going on and on about somebody being a hater is I want you to be able to take negative feedback, a negative review.

I had this amazing flower friend here that. S borrowed some, um, things from me and they got negative feedback at the event, and I could tell that they were crushed. And I just, I love this person. So I was like, I, I the, if they did not see on Pinterest that these are how these things look, then that is their problem, not yours.

You made beautiful flowers, you made all the promises to them. And a couple people bitching, it sounds like that is just fundamentally their jam. There are people who just like to complain, but I want to, oh, I'm rubber your glue, whatever you say, bounces off of me and sticks to you. So I want you to feel that you can, can, you know, act like you are acknowledging what they're saying and if it is feedback that is helpful.

Okay, take that feedback. As long as you kept all your promises on that situation, as long as you were, uh, approaching the situation from a standpoint of happiness and helpfulness and love. If you're doing something maliciously, obviously then there, then that feedback should be received and should be looked at.

But if you can just think, okay. Okay. That feedback came out. I am not going to let it stumble me backwards. I'm going to let it bounce off of me and stick back to them, because some people truly are just unkind and those are the people that you do not need to worry about. Do not need to keep attracting, do not need to keep funneling in because they're probably unhappy.

I can usually look at somebody and I, I did. Like, just try to see if I could look at this person. I, I looked at the person who left the, um, the flower foam comment, and their, their feed was just, I, I could tell like that they just probably were not in a place in their business and in their life that they were really, truly happy.

And I tried to just think positive thoughts for them getting on a path of really loving their business like I do. And loving my business is plural. I mean, I have two businesses that I absolutely adore the shit out of, and they could have that too if they changed their mindset. They changed maybe some things that they're doing in their business and really evolve to that next level.

So I hope you can do that too. I hope you can just let the feedback that someone gives you that doesn't feel good. Bounce off of you and stick back to them. Not sink into your heart, not sink into your head, and just know that you are poaching every day in your business with true intention, with true.

Like just love for what you are doing and really move your business forward. Because once you start letting all of those things go, letting all that feedback hang with you is pulling you down and is pulling you back in your business. And you deserve to propel your business forward, and I know you can do it.

Have a 📍 great day, flower friend, and thank you so much for listening.