The Truth About Doing It All
Hello flower friends. On this week's episode, we're gonna be talking about the truth, about doing it all. That really you can't do it all. Doing it all is something that I hear constantly. I get asked, how do you do everything? And I went to a local networking event and there is, I would call her a mogul.
She owns three different businesses. And I'm not saying, oh, I do, Mary Kay and I do this other thing and I do this other thing. Like, I mean, she full on has like full arsenal of employees and like, I mean, they're, they're big businesses. She just acquired another business that is between states even. And uh, she's a sweet human being and very personable and I.
Have really grown to, um, I mean, how can you not respect somebody who is a force of nature, but she was putting together in a local, um, wedding professional or event professional, uh, big event. And in that, uh, the theme was, um, an evening unmasked. And she said that she was going to re. Remove one of her masks and in a very vulnerable conversation, she basically said that, you know, like she pro she gets asked probably the same thing.
I don't know how you do it. And her answer was that she doesn't, um, every decision that she makes is potentially disappointing somebody else. When you're choosing one thing, you're not choosing another thing, and that's a choice that you have to make every day. And that choice often stings because I wish I could do it all.
And I have people all the time ask me, I don't know how you do it. And. I am, I've always kind of just said, yeah, and I, you know what? I am a high performer, a high, I am a high achiever. I am somebody that has very high standards for myself, for my children, for my relationship, um, for just my whole entire being.
And I don't very easily give myself grace because I have all of these big expectations for myself. But. I know that with those expectations that I can't make everyone happy, and I'm often in that mix disappointing myself because I'm choosing somebody else's agenda or I'm choosing somebody else's issue, problem, or predicament, or they need help or.
I'm choosing someone else's emergency rather than my own. And it's something that as I've gotten older, I've definitely worked on the ability to say no, but what you guys don't see. 'cause I often be like, I don't know how you have all these animals and you have two children. Which, I mean, Bodhi is definitely getting bigger and that has been a big change.
But you guys, he's he, since we moved to the farm and his. Door. He has like a little kind of door in his bedroom and it blew open one night in a storm. 'cause we're getting pounded with wind right now. I just found two tree branches down, like it is so windy down here sometimes. And he's been in my bed ever since because he's just scared.
But he's now seven. He just turned seven and. He's only gonna be little for so long, and if I can squeeze and cuddle and even though he kicks the crap out of me when he sleeps, like I'm gonna choose that all, all day long, even though I don't get to sleep as well. But with that, I'm also choosing to have my motherhood be more important than potentially getting an estimate out.
Because sometimes, you know, him sleeping with me is tiring in the morning, uh, sometimes Bella, we have had a lot of dynamic around her school and a boy who's been very inappropriate, um, and making her very uncomfortable. And frankly, like his mom has not handled the situation 'cause his behavior was.
Unbelievably crazy, in my opinion, for a 11-year-old boy to have. And so we've been navigating with her coming home and crying, and sometimes I need to cuddle my daughter instead of responding to an email. So while I know that I'm staying true to my heart, because being a mother is my biggest job in life, that means that sometimes I don't get an email sent.
Sometimes I don't get my mastermind calls sent out as early as I'd like them to be. Sometimes I don't get an estimate done in time. Uh, my car is filled with Diet Mountain Doans. There is a pile of laundry. There is, um, you know, manure that should probably be picked up every day, but I just don't have the capacity.
So every day doing it all is just not possible. And I often, like, there's, uh, my sister is one of the people in my life who has always, you know, she's 10 years older than me, and especially since my mom passed away. I think she's definitely more conservative in a lot of ways, and I love her so much. She is definitely like the closest person.
That I have, uh, in my family. Um, and she's always like, should you really be adding anything? But I, I crave it. I crave a addition. I crave making things bigger. I crave craziness. Sometimes I crave excitement. I crave, um, you know, like the feeling of doing it all. But then I walk into my house and I look at a pile of laundry, and then I, some, I often feel like I'm failing.
Somewhere. So I'm, I'm having this conversation and this doing this episode because I feel like we always feel shame when we're not doing it all. And the truth is, when you have so much on your plate, there's no way that you can do it all. And I wanna normalize that that's okay. That we're not perfect, we're not intended to be perfect.
And as business owners, every day we are learning in our business, and we shouldn't be ashamed. We should feel like every day is an opportunity to really kick ourself out of the rut that we keep spinning in so that we can move our business forward and businesses change, evolve, and grow over time. And that's part of really just being a human.
And I often, you know, would, would struggle that I, I would feel like I needed, especially with being a ni ni neurodivergent and having a DHD, uh, I just, I felt like I just needed this more. I felt like I always needed more. I feel like I need to go to the gym more. I feel like I need to clean more. I feel like I need more miniature cows right now.
I feel like I'm not doing enough and I need to do this and I'm not need to do that. And I, it's like I a constant frenzy of disappointment in my head because I am my hardest critic. And I have a partner who supports me in so many ways. And so when I am coaching someone that is often one of the first conversations that I'm having is I am wanting to understand if they have a supportive partner because as someone who has had some not so supportive partners, um, I know how impactful that component can be.
And if you have somebody who doesn't believe in you, doesn't believe in your dreams, and only believes in you getting the laundry done, or you getting dinner on the table, you taking care of them and then not reciprocating that same care to you, you are going to have a steeper hill to climb. You deserve to be perfectly imperfect to.
Function at the level that feels good to you to have the love and drive for your life, for your business. And when something doesn't feel good to make adjustments and not feel guilt or shame, guilt and shame often accompany feeling like you're not doing enough. And I know that. Whenever I look at my kids' hair and I'm like, God, they need a haircut.
And I feel guilty and I feel shame that I haven't gotten that prioritized. I can't prioritize everything. Part of doing all the things means weighing the checks and balances of when those things need to be done and just trying the best you can. And while that doesn't sound like super scientific. At the end of the day, I want you to be able to go to bed and still feel good that you tried.
And if every day you feel like I tried and I'm not moving anywhere closer to my goals, then we need to reevaluate everything that's on your plate. I give an analogy, and I've often talked about this on the podcast, but. In the four CEO Mastermind and with one-on-one coaching clients, if you have a plate of spaghetti and then your grand idea is that you want to do this new part of your business, you wanna add this new thing, you wanna do all these things, but you, your plate, the noodles are spilling off of it, and you have spaghetti noodles everywhere.
You have no room to add onto your plate. So if you feel like you're, you're doing all, all the things and your spaghetti is still spilling everywhere and you still have big dreams for more, you're going to have to strategically cut a section of your plate and clear it. You're gonna have to throw away some of the noodles.
You're gonna have to throw away a meatball. You're gonna have to do something because you can't just constantly have spaghetti. Falling everywhere, you guys, it's just not viable. You can't grow a business with the leftovers, and if you are tired of operating your business with the leftovers and you are ready to be strategic, I have been insanely impactful in my business with what I have given it.
I have a multi six figure business. While still prioritizing my family, my children, uh, my relationship myself, going to pottery class, going to CrossFit, um, having all these animals, I've, I, I basically moved, had a serious shift in revenue. Um, on, in one particular area and didn't really lose a beat, you guys.
So I completely uprooted my life and it's because I know where to cut the pie out. And so if you are looking to figure out how am I going to do that, because it can feel over so overwhelming and so. Like literally debilitating sometimes for some people. I wanna help you figure that out. And with the amazing group of women that are in the floral CEO Mastermind, we, it is like one of the most supportive containers out there.
And honestly to me, for the price, it is the best value. Highest touch Mastermind out there. When I started the Floral CEO Mastermind years ago, there was not a mastermind period out there. And now there are a couple out there, but to me, there is nothing like this. Not only do we dig into practical ways to build your business.
We do it with intention and impact in a way that feels really good so that you avoid burnout. I help florist be more profitable, make more money without burnout because we, I help you choose and prioritize what spaghetti you need to cut off your plate. If this seems interesting, I'm always happy to set up a conversation and see if it's the right fit.
Um, and you can send me a DM on Instagram. Otherwise go check it out at floral ceo.com/mastermind. It will change your life, it will change your business. And I know how hugely impactful this is because I have seen people quitting their jobs. Um, I have seen people stop doing things in their business that was wasting their time, money, money, resources, and.
They basically went from doing like 15 wire orders a day to 15 or 20 orders a week so that they could focus on revenue impact instead of draining their battery every day. If this seems interesting to you, go check out floral ceo.com/mastermind. I appreciate every single one of you and I hope if your plate is overflowing.
That you get the help that you need and the support you need because you deserve it. Thank you so much for listening, flower Friend, and you have an amazing flower filled day.
