The Floral Hustle

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Hello, flower friends. This is Jen, and on this week's mini sode, if you guys have been living under a rock, you might not have heard about the tariffs and all these things coming our way, uh, but I'm guessing you likely have, uh, heard, and I'm guessing this last week might've felt stressful for you. This last week might've not felt great.

It might've been. Crap. What about my contract? Crap. How am I gonna deal with this crap? Crap, crap, crap. Like, and things like this happen. Stuff changes the world changes, uh, situations can happen. And you know, I even think about just like what my life has been even the last couple months with us buying the farm, going through and, you know, actually closing.

And three days before closing, they literally told us they made a mistake reading our pre-approval letter for the, um. For our second mortgage, so we would be avoiding Mor mortgage insurance. And they, um, messed up. And we had, we needed $9,000 more to close and I had these huge events and these huge, like people asking me for help and just like a million different things us starting to move down.

My daughter having. A bunch of crap at school. My son switching his, his room, uh, his preschool room or his kindergarten room. Um, and even today I had a workshop and you know, like just different things that were thrown my way with, with ticket sales and people being more or last minute and then people not showing up and just like a million things.

But I wanna talk about. How I turn those situations or how I really reduce my stress level in those. And what are things that you can do to feel more in control, less stress, and really kind of regroup? Uh, so a couple things that I went through and thought about that I do almost any time I feel overwhelmed creeping in.

For one, I always clap my hand and say, I don't do overwhelm. So if you've heard me talk about that at the podcast, I literally, when something starts to feel, I clap my hands and say, I don't do this. I literally do not do overwhelm. So how is this going to change? Period. Because I am in control of myself, my business, my family, my situation.

And so if something is out of my control, how am I going to change or shift it so that I am in control of least of how I feel about it or how I'm reacting to it? So you are more in control than you think. 'cause right now a lot of people feel like they have no control. You have control to get your contracts figured out.

You have control to proactively start pricing differently. You have control to reach out to a lawyer to how to handle this. You are more in control than you give yourself credit for. So one thing that I do is I really analyze a situation when it doesn't feel good, when it feels. Like it's teetering towards making me feel overwhelm.

I pattern interrupt. I don't do overwhelm. I then go, how could I make this situation feel good? How could I make this situation feel better? How could I really come out this situation stronger? So that's one thing. Pattern interrupt. How strategize and game plan. But when you're in this state of overwhelm, when you're in this state of panic, uh, it is sometimes hard to get your brain to work properly.

So how can, when your brain is in this shutdown mode, how can you reset? So one thing that I do is when I'm getting towards, like I need to regroup, I step back. And I stepped back from social media. I stepped back from showing up fully and I figure out how can this again, feel better. So from social, maybe I, I'm not gonna log onto social for the weekend.

I, my email was starting to not feel good. I'm like, who are these fucking people and what, how do they think that they can be in my inbox this frequently? And I get people marketing things, but I'm like, I don't even know how some of these people got my email. So this last, like when this came, I was like, I need my inbox to feel better.

So I went in and I started unsubscribing Every day I've said I'm gonna go in and unsubscribe to 10 people to 10 different emails because I know a lot more of the than that I could, but 10 feels manageable. I can go into my email and I've done this for the last four days in a row, and I've unsubscribed to 10 emails that are no longer relevant serving me or don't feel good.

That could be going in unfollowing potential accounts on Instagram or potential friends on Facebook and muting their ass or unfollowing them. Yeah, if something doesn't feel good, how can you make it feel better? Same thing, relationships. If something doesn't feel good, you might need to have a difficult conversation.

My husband and I are un completely di, he actually, he voted for Trump. I am like kind of embarrassed to say this, if you were or you, you voted for Trump. You do you, I get it. Like everybody has a choice. But like I, I like sometimes was questioning, how am I married to this man when we have such different views and like, we had some pretty big discussions this week and I, I at least feel like for one, he's looking at me, he's making eye contact with me, he's receiving and we're respecting each other even though like it makes me kind of my blood boil.

I have to respect that he's allowed to have a different opinion and I can make it clear that his differences, opinion doesn't feel good to me though, like that we have such fundamental differences on this exact topic. I can make him feel like I want you to at least know how I feel. I don't wanna stew and simmer into like this, this whole part here.

Doesn't feel good because I think with that we're at least sharing how we are impacted by something. Now, me telling him that you are completely off base, like who, who are and like telling him, you, you, you, you, is not gonna be helpful. So any interaction that I'm having with somebody that something doesn't feel good, I really try to focus on.

Me because that's what I know. I don't wanna tell them they're wrong. I just wanna tell them like, whatever is going on doesn't make me feel good in this situation. I want the situation to feel better. I'm guessing that they might be feeling similar. How can we come to terms so that we both are winning in this situation?

'cause currently it doesn't feel good. I do this in business if somebody's screwing up my at at the wholesaler. If somebody a freelancer and their behavior isn't feeling good. I avoid me feeling like shit at all costs, so I will have a conversation. This does not feel good right now. I wanted to share that with you because I'm really trying to be in tune with myself.

I'm really trying to be in alignment. This could be your mother, this could be anybody. We are on this planet for far too little amount of time to feel like shit. And we far too often as women, as people pleasers, as caregivers, as warm, loving people, let everybody else dictate how we feel because we've given them the power to treat us like shit.

And I am no longer available for that to happen. If something doesn't feel good, I am going to make sure that I change that I am sharing like. Even I went to, um, a business meeting and I even wanna know that feedback. Like as a business owner, I wanna know how to make my business better, and if something doesn't sit right with somebody, or I would want them to share with me.

I mean, obviously I don't want a bunch of premadonnas running around dictating how I do business. But as a business owner, if something was really impactful that like in my sales process or like about my website or something didn't feel good, I'd want them to tell me. So I went in and I asked the person first if they were open to receiving feedback about working with them versus their competition and.

Our meeting was done and they said they had to hop on a call and I said, I, I, I know you don't have time right now, but I would love to circle back because I really think feedback is valuable. And she said, I can be late, I wanna hear it right now. And she sat down, this woman owns two very large companies and is uber successful, but like.

That feedback loop. And I said, I really think that this would be something, this is why it holds me back from doing business with you sometimes. And that feedback was just, she's just like, oh, I've never thought about it that way. And you know, these are some of the reasons why I said, I completely understand why you do it that way.

But I am saying, what if you had this open invitation that once a month or once a week that you invited the problem to this solution could be met. And so wedding professionals, et cetera, could be more apt to deal with, to to work with your business. And like she received that feedback, took that feedback.

And like I felt like for one, I mattered. 'cause I do think that everybody matters. But we often don't feel we matter enough, and it's those moments, you do matter and your feelings do matter. You should feel good. If something doesn't feel good, change it. The other thing that I think that I often people run into is everything feels so overwhelming that they feel like there isn't a way out.

And another approach that I really. I kind of live by is everything is figureoutable. I got that from Marie Furlow. Um, I've taken her courses. I, I listened to her podcast. I think she is very inspirational. She has ha overcome so much, but like her motto is, everything is figureoutable. And when you feel that way, you and you really adopt that as a kind of a philosophy.

That's when it really starts to become figureoutable. People know that you're up to getting feedback. People are know, you're up for improvement. You are not afraid to voice your opinion, to, uh, invite ideas, invite solutions, and when you do that, you are going to get the answers so much quicker. What if.

Yes. You know, let's just say these tariffs are coming our way and everybody's freaking out. What if you're just like, you know what, this is figureoutable I'm gonna figure out because I'm gonna go and meet with a, a creative lawyer. I'm gonna go figure this out. I'm gonna go redo my contract. Um, I'm gonna go figure out how to have a difficult conversation.

I'm gonna go figure out what my current contract has in it that could help me have these difficult conversations. Like once you do that, you know, or I'm gonna figure out how to position this in a way that like, I'm gonna make substitutions or I'm gonna sub with some silk products, or I'm gonna do whatever to make this figure audible.

And when you do that, you are, you are becoming like this solution provider and. People are drawn to work with you because you're like, I'm always gonna figure it out. I, any wedding planner or decorator that knows that, you know, I'm like kind of like their go-to person. Whatever they bring my way, they know where I'm going to figure it out.

'cause everything is figureoutable. I can figure out anything. And if you have that belief and that power. Like that comes with confidence, and with confidence comes success. And if you guys were crushing it and successful, the overwhelm is not going to be as present because you feel like that success is carrying you.

So those are a few tips. If you do not, and I know I, I. Um, mention like that partner, if you do not have a, a supportive partner and you have someone only pouring gasoline on your anxiety ridden fire that you already have going, you need to have some serious conversations about what support you need, because that is only gonna fuel your fire if you are working so hard.

At counterbalancing that you are working so hard at changing that dynamic in your head that everything is figureoutable, everything is going amazing. I am a problem solving action taking woman, whatever it is. And you have somebody over in the corner going, when is this business gonna work out? This feels like a shit show.

I can't believe this person did this. I can't believe this tariffs, you're gonna make no money. Like that energy is gonna tank you, which is going to tank your business. You need to start having difficult con conversations around your support in your family, in your partner, in your friendships, and if you don't have that support.

The floral CEO Mastermind, we're like boss babes that are there to support you. Everybody knows what you're going through 'cause everybody is is in it. We're all in it. And you need that support to be successful. It, it was, when I first joined a mastermind, it was like, and when I first got out, like my own business coach, like my mind just shifted because I just saw what.

Other people were thinking and doing and like the possibilities out there. And if you don't have that, try to build friendships with that. Listen to this podcast, listen to other podcasts that inspire you. You need catalyst for change. You need the momentum. And when all these women are doing something that is just creating momentum that you're just like witnessing, it's hard to not have your own.

It is hard, like when all these people are like talking about all these things, you know, like I, I've been talking about inquiries, like I've been getting inquiries, I've been doing consultations. Like, when you hear that and then you're just like, okay, what am I doing to not get, you know, like, how am I gonna shift this?

Am I doing things proactively? Am I uh, here today, gone tomorrow showing up in my business? Or did I check outta my business for a month? And I'm wondering why we're here. How can you create lasting change? How can you create lasting peace? Because also it was we, I had this Minnesota Floral Collective event today, and it was just interesting to see people's energy in their business.

And I met this woman who is going to be quitting her job and starting this business that she was buying it from somebody. She just had this really positive energy, good eye contact, just super confident. I was like, this feels so good. I just know and I hope she listens to this and she knows who I'm talking about.

Like I know her success is inevitable because of her energy going into her business, and I'm guessing like that energy comes from her knowing that she's going to figure everything out.

And when you have that energy of knowing everything is going to be figured out. You have momentum from that. And when you have the energy of the sky is falling. Like that momentum and that energy comes into your business. So I, I hope that this little pep talk was helpful, and I appreciate you guys listening and supporting the podcast.

It has been an honor to be in your ears, and I am so grateful for you. Thank you so much for listening, flower Friends, and you have an amazing flower filled day. 📍